tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1764328218611568829.post2136394042181566264..comments2024-03-13T19:49:05.520-07:00Comments on The Adventures of Shylock Holmes: Subtle Hallmarks of NarcissismShylock Holmeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00446165270035271752noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1764328218611568829.post-47893931493554644832017-08-09T10:07:16.005-07:002017-08-09T10:07:16.005-07:00My guess is that most of the obliviousness tends t...My guess is that most of the obliviousness tends to stem from self-centredness. In other words, you don't really think of things genuinely from how it might feel to the other person, so don't notice what might potentially annoy them. The other part is the false consensus effect - assuming that everyone else values the same things you do. An easy way to check - for the people in your life, do you know the small things that you like that they don't? If you don't know many for most people, then it's possible.<br /><br />Not that I'm any sort of expert on this. It's just something I think about. Trying to cultivate more genuine empathy is nearly always a step in the right direction.Shylock Holmeshttp://shylockholmes.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1764328218611568829.post-79386186878442421702017-08-08T14:23:54.292-07:002017-08-08T14:23:54.292-07:00This hit home for me in the weirdest way, because ...This hit home for me in the weirdest way, because I am overly concerned with what I am missing that everyone else might see vis-a-vis the awesome power of my own internal bias. Whenever I run into an oblivious individual like your friend my jimmies are sent into orbit. Not by their behavior per see, but rather by my own paranoia that I'm unaware of a fatal flaw in my own personality and habits.Anton Kreigskindhttp://reeeactionary.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com